2 Thoughts - Patience & Presence

This week at church, the homily was about patience and our relentless need to focus on what hasn't been done. The priest talked about "dolce far niente" - the sweetness of doing nothing. It went on for what felt like 300 hours, but only because it felt like a personal attack. (As evidenced by all my family members staring pointedly at me.)

#1: Mind the gap

If I offloaded one thing, I would immediately find something to fill the gap. That's not an achievement problem. It's an internal one. It requires gratitude for the moment, and guardrails around leisure.

#2: When the wheels start to wobble 

For me, high stress comes with raging headaches and poor calendar management, which means I miss the healthy things that keep me healthy. And a penchant to be the worst version of myself with other people. That's not winning.

TRY THIS: Reset the rhythm

Since I'm actively in this mode, here's what I find works. Physically slow down when I catch myself rushing. Remove meetings so I have one day a week with none. Start the day with a meditation or prayer app, end it the same way. Go for long walks or go to the gym. And for every item I see that isn't done, name 3 things that have been.

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